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Does Your Husband Pull Away Every Time You Tell Him How Lonely And Disconnected From Him You Feel?
You want your marriage to work.
But every time you try to tell your husband how lonely and disconnected from him you feel…
He just withdraws and checks out… like he's not even hearing you.
And it’s frustrating… because you’re someone who’s used to solving problems and figuring things out.
But when it comes to your marriage… nothing you try seems to work.
You’ve tried counseling.
You’ve talked to your pastor.
You’ve read all the self-help books.
You’ve listened to all the podcasts.
And you’ve sat him down more times than you can count and said:
“I feel we’re disconnected… and I feel alone in this marriage.”
His response?
His response?
“I don’t know what you want from me.”
And then he pulls away.
It’s like you're speaking a different language.
His reaction is also really confusing to you because…
You know he’s a good person… and you know he's faithful...
You just can’t understand why he won’t hear you.
He’s the problem or the bad guy.
And when someone feels like they’re the bad guy in the conversation…
They stop trying to fix it, they withdraw, and they start trying to get out of the conversation.
So while you’re trying to say… “we need to fix this”…
What he’s hearing is…
“You’re failing at being a husband.”
And when a person feels like they’re being told they're failing...
Especially when they *believe* they're doing everything they can…
They don’t lean in.
They feel attacked...
They pull away...
They get defensive... or…
They try to leave the conversation.
But when you know how to approach him in a way that makes him feel safe...
And feel like he is part of the solution...
And not the problem…
Everything shifts.
Everything shifts.
That’s when he’ll lean into the conversation, instead of pulling away.
That’s when he’ll open up and share more than he ever has…
That’s when he’ll start wanting to be around you more often and spend quality time with you…
That’s when he’ll start showing up for you the way you’ve been wanting him to…
And that’s exactly what I help you do inside “Reconnected.”
Giovanni Chekwa
Giovanni is a transformational coach who helps smart women to go from feeling lonely and disconnected in their marriages... to finally feeling heard and getting reconnected with their husbands.
He's a graduate of Johns Hopkins University... and he lives in the Washington, D.C. metro area with his wife of over 20 years and their four children.
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