Your therapist recommended that you communicate your needs clearly to your husband…
And all you want is to spend more quality time together…
But every time you try to tell him how you feel ignored and abandoned by him…
He just shuts down.
It’s like he doesn’t have any time or patience for you.
You know this marriage is fixable and you know you can get things back on track…
But you’re trying really hard… and you’re just not sure what you’re missing.
Here’s what I see happening with so many women in your situation:
When you have the conversation with your husband about feeling ignored and abandoned …
You’re not just walking into it with the frustration of the most recent thing he has done to make you feel ignored…
You’re walking in reminded of all the ways you’ve ever felt ignored or abandoned by him since the beginning of the marriage…
And even though you’re not trying to be difficult… and you just want to be heard…
Without meaning to…
That frustration and built-up resentment comes pouring out behind every word you say to him.
And no matter how calm you appear on the outside or how perfectly you choose your words...
He can feel the frustration behind every word you say.
And he hates conflict so he just shuts down... because your frustration and resentment feels so intense to him.
And then him shutting down makes you feel even more ignored and abandoned.
And the cycle repeats itself.
And until this changes…
He’s going to keep shutting down no matter how clearly you communicate.
But when you know how to start showing up to those conversations as the woman he used to feel relaxed around…
Without all the frustration and resentment simmering behind every word…
That’s when he leans into the conversation… as opposed to shutting down…
That's when he actually stays present instead of checking out…
That’s when you feel like you’re finally getting through to him… and he starts showing up for you again.
And that’s exactly what I’ll show you how to do inside “Finally Heard.”
It’s a 28-day 1-on-1 coaching experience, where I’ll help you to become the version of you he naturally opens up to…
Instead of the version he shuts down around…
So he finally hears you and starts spending more quality time with you.
If you’re ready to finally get through to him…
Tap the button below for more info...
Rooting for you,
Giovanni Chekwa
