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Does Your Husband Shut Down When You Tell Him How Lonely And Unsupported You Feel?
You want your marriage to work...
But if you’re being honest… you’re at your wits end...
And you don’t know how much longer you can keep doing this…
Because you’ve had this same conversation so many times now…
And nothing ever actually changes.
You’ve been feeling ignored and unsupported for years.
You’ve both been to counseling.
You’ve both talked to your pastor.
You’ve sat him down so many times and said to him…
“I feel alone in this marriage. I need you to show up for us.”
“I’m exhausted, I need us to be partners in this.”
His response?
Because every time you try to communicate your needs...
What he hears is that… he’s the problem or the bad guy.
And when someone feels like they’re the bad guy in the conversation…
They stop trying to fix it and start trying to get out of the conversation.
So while you’re trying to say “we need to fix this”… what he’s hearing is “you’re failing.”
And when a person feels like they’re failing… they don’t lean in.
They shut down, get defensive, or try to leave the conversation.
But when you know how to talk about the problem in a way where he doesn’t feel like the bad guy…
Everything shifts.
That’s when he stays in the conversation.
That’s when he actually tries to understand what you’re feeling.
That’s when he’ll start showing up for you the way you’ve been wanting him to.
And that’s exactly what I help you do inside “Heard.”
It’s a 6-week 1-on-1 coaching experience where...
I’ll show you how to talk to your husband in a way where he doesn’t feel like the bad guy…
So he can fully hear you...
And start showing up for you the way you’ve been wanting him to.
If you’re ready to start feeling heard, understood and supported by your husband…
Tap the button below for more info...
Rooting for you,
Giovanni Chekwa
Giovanni Chekwa
Giovanni is a transformational coach who helps smart women to go from feeling lonely and unsupported in their marriages... to finally feeling heard and getting their needs met by their husbands.
He's a graduate of Johns Hopkins University... and he lives in the Washington, D.C. metro area with his wife and four kids.
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